Depressed people, as it turns out, see life more clearly than their peers, the optimists, who might be outright delusional.
Here is what PsychologyToday has to say about it:
While people with depression can suffer from cognitive distortions, the scientific literature suggests that those with only mild-to-moderate depression can also have more accurate judgment about the outcome of so-called contingent events (events which may or may not occur), and a more realistic perception of their role, abilities, and limitations. This so-called ‘depressive realism’ may enable a person with depression to shed the Pollyanna optimism and rose-tinted spectacles that shield us from reality, to see life more accurately, and to judge it accordingly.
Basically, depressed people with light to moderate depression, are right:
Life is bad, it was never good and it will keep getting worse.
What do about it? Other than suicide to end our suffering, what are our other, more interesting options?
Let’s explore them now.
If you look at your past, it somehow looks good.
Why is that?
Why do you look at all the troubles you went through with a slight hint of humor, and why do you see all the problems you had to solve as silly and insignificant?
Because you are looking at them from a position of power.
In the now, you have learned what it takes to solve whatever troubles have come your way in the past. They are not so scary now.
This is the right attitude, actually. Let’s talk about it now.
Power is what makes the past look good and the lack of knowledge on how to solve your current problems is what makes them scary and look bad to you now.
Power is the difference. Knowledge is power.
What’s the plan, then?
First, remember how frustrated and angry you were in the past when all those troubles you had to go through attacked you and came over you?
See now how insignificant, silly and funny they are now?
Could it be, that your current problems are actually the same? You know they are, because a few years from now, you know you will be looking at them with the same attitude. And if you think you won’t remember how many times you’ve already felt the same way in the past.
It’s always the same.
Silence your critics. Ignore your haters. Delete your cynics.
My advice is that if you must be selfish, be wisely selfish. Wise people serve others sincerely, putting the needs of others above their own. Ultimately you will be happier. The kind of selfishness that provokes fighting, killing, stealing, using harsh words, forgetting other people’s welfare will only result in your own loss.
No problem has ever been solved by worrying about it.
Do not think. Thinking is the enemy of creativity.
Whether you think you can, or you think you cannot-you are right
Idleness is fatal only to the mediocre
It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all - in which case, you fail by default
A good conscience is a continual Christmas
Fortune favors the bold
Diplomacy is the art of telling people to go to hell in such a way that they ask for directions.
How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives. What we do with this hour, and that one, is what we are doing.
That’s right. If you want to have fewer troubles in life, laugh them off!
Life will hurt you as much as you will allow it to hurt you, with your attitude.
People use laughter consistently to even get rid of fatal, incurable illnesses, like this man here. I just Googled it out. If this isn’t convincing for you, use Google to find your own evidence.
If people can cure cancer with laughter, can it be, that you can fix your life, reduce your pain, and improve your mood with it?Kirgiz03 (CC0), Pixabay
That’s about your attitude. Just laugh it off.
There are of course always exceptions to that, like the loss of a loved one. We aren’t going to discuss that here.
Now, let’s do something about that power problem.
That’s simple. Just write down on a sheet of paper the areas of life that generate the most frustration for you.
Knowledge is power.
Just put down on a sheet of paper the areas of life that frustrate you the most, and then simply make a list of books that you are going to read on each subject, where you feel powerless.
Then apply the knowledge you have acquired now to solve it to the best of your abilities. Also remember, that as time goes by, a better solution will always pop at some point in time. What’s important is to keep in mind, that at TIME being, you have done your best with the knowledge you’ve had about it and the resources available. So don’t blame yourself. Solve it and move on.
Fun and Knowledge. That’s what it comes down to. Have fun, laugh it off and gather knowledge, so you will be a better problem – solver in the areas that matter to you.
It’s simple as that.
Now move on, and remember – why worry about something if you will get over it eventually anyway? No problem has ever been solved by worrying about it.