Which, in the era of Internet trolls is a forgotten art.
Here is another quote on the same subject, by the same man.
Diplomacy is the art of telling people to go to hell in such a way that they ask for directions.
Can you do that? You can! The secret of this art is very simple. Like Abraham Lincoln, father of American diplomacy would put it…
Just stay positive. Never tell anything negative to people, and certainly don’t ever badmouth them behind their backs!
Dale Carnegie, in his book How to win friends and influence people, tells the following amazing story about him…
Lincoln while young, had a terrible temper and his favorite hobby was to insult people and tell them spicy things. To pour acid in their souls.
One day, he offended this one very proud lawyer. Who invited him to a honorable duel, with pistols! And the lawyer was a renouned shooter and duelist!
Lincoln survived only, because… He didn’t GO! The lawyer was obstructed by force-majeure forces and the duel was cancelled!-As best as memory serves from Dale’s book
After this event, Lincoln became the most tactful, diplomatic person in American history!
The secret to his diplomacy? Never tell anyone a bad thing! Not to their face, and certainly not behind their backs. Protect their feelings at any cost! If you have nothing good to say, say nothing!
Now he is probably the most respected and beloved of the Founding Fathers.
Look how far his attitude of goodness got him.
You can do this, too. It’s up to you!
In order to win friends, you must first be friendly!