Self Esteem is crucial to success. You may not realize it, but your level of self-confidence determines the level of your success in life. You are being held back by your fear more than you know. The more confident you are, the more magnetism you have.
Three factors destroy your self-esteem:
- Doubt and fear
- Guild and feelings of unworthiness
- Feelings of inferiority and un-deservingness.
Luckily, all habits are learned. No child is born with destructive emotions in them. You have learned to feel that way, which means you can unlearn.
The Law of Cause and Effect states that everything is happening to you for a reason.
- Thoughts are causes
- Conditions are effects
I will mention some laws that affect your self esteem.
The Law of Belief states that whatever you believe with feeling becomes your reality.
Here is how you determine if a belief you have is good or bad? Very easy. Does it make you happy and enhance your life in some way? If no, then it’s a negative belief.
What are limiting beliefs? Limiting beliefs make you believe that you are limited in some way. They are very connected to your desire to make up excuses about things.
Accordingly, are examples of good beliefs:
- I can do anything I put my mind to.
- I believe I will be a big success.
Law of Expectation:
What you expect with confidence becomes your self-fulfilling prophecy.
Especially expect the best of people who look up to you. Expect the best of people and situations. For example, tell your spouse that they are the best and you believe in them.
Certainly, democracy is important in childraising.
People talk a lot these days about the law of attraction. Here is how it works in more detail and how it affects your self esteem:
You are a living magnet. Accordingly, you attract to yourself things, people, and circumstances based on your dominant thoughts. The Law of Vibration states that your thoughts are vibrations and the emotion you feel is their energy.
Law of sympathetic resonance:
If you hit C# on a piano, and there is another piano in the room, all of a sudden the corresponding string on the other piano will start vibrating. Consequently, this means that you should mix up with the right people.
You talk about somebody and they all of a sudden call you. This is another example of the Law.
Keep your mind on what you want.
Another key point is that winners when confronted with a task recall their previous success experiences. Losers recall their failures.
You are constantly attracting people and circumstances according to your dominant thoughts.
Law of correspondence
As within, so without.
This is the second Hermetic principle. Your entire world is a reflection of what is within you. Accordingly, your outer world of relationships and earnings is determined by your inner world of thoughts.
If things are not going well for you, ask yourself what is it in me that is causing this?
Law of Habit:
What you do repeatedly, consequently becomes your new habit. You become what you think about most of the time. If you change your thinking, you change all after all.
What is your master-concept?
What makes you unique from everyone else is your mind. Everything else you have in common with the rest. You never go more than 10% above or below your self-concept.
What is your self-concept consequently made of?
- Your self-ideal. These are your values, ideas, hopes, and dreams. How clear are you about your goals? Great people don’t compromise on their goals and ideals.
- Your self-image. Basically how you see yourself.
- Self-esteem – determines your level of vitality, humor, charm, etc. Accordingly, this is the question “how much do I like myself”.
Here is how to increase your self-esteem:
If you do things that are consequent with the best person you can be, your self-esteem goes up. If you don’t it goes down.
Repeat whenever you can the following positive affirmations:
- I like myself
- I am the best.
Consequently, the more you like yourself, the more you like other people, and the more they like you back. The less you worry and feel fear.
Praise other people, say Thank You. Improve their self-confidence and this will improve yours.
Negative emotions hold you back.
Negative emotions consequently have three components:
- Justification – stop justifying them. I know they are addictive.
- Identification – don’t take it personally.
- Blame – stop blaming. Say “I am responsible” instead.
Superior people respond positively to a crisis or a fallout.
When children come into this world, they believe that they can do anything and they don’t have to do anything. We drum into them the fear of failure “I can’t” and fear of rejection through conditional love.
Imagine what happens when somebody falls into the vicious cycle of “I have to but I can’t”. This leads to illness.
The cure for this is to repeat to yourself “I can do it” as often as possible. If you feel under pressure, repeat “I don’t have to”. This will improve your self-confidence.
The only use for feelings of guilt and unworthiness is control and manipulation. If you can get your children to feel guilty at an early age, you can control them for the rest of their life. Guilt is based on destructive criticism. If somebody tries to use guilt on you, say “Are you trying to make me feel guilty?”. Repeat it every time they do it and when they finally say “Yes”, respond with “It won’t work” and smile.
Law of Forgiveness
Say “I forgive myself. I forgive my parents, my boss, my spouse, and my friends. Forgive any relationship that also didn’t work. Forgive everyone else. Let it go. Your self-confidence will go high.
Learn about learned helplessness. Humans take a single experience to learn that they can’t do it. Consequently, the cure for this is to ask yourself “Is it true that I can’t do it?”. Get out of your comfort zone and finally stop making excuses.
Law of superconscious activity
This law states that any thought, plan, idea, or goal held continuously must be brought into reality by the superconscious mind.
Become your own cheerleader. Especially when things look bad, repeat to yourself “I can do it. I like myself. I forgive myself.” Work on your self-confidence.